How will you know when you get there?
We are quick to constitute things as failures, my business failed, my marriage failed, I failed as a parent. We seem to be clear on our definition of failure but far less clear on our definition of success.
How will you know if you’ve been successful, or is life just a series of failures leading up to our final event?
When you take a test in school it’s unambiguous, anything below 50% correct is a failure. You set your expectations for success, or your parents do, anything above 80% or 90% or 70% and you have succeeded. You fail or succeed on every test, every homework, every course, every semester.
Outside of school, we know we failed if we don’t make the team but does that mean making the team was a success or does success move to winning the championships? Are you a successful actress because you got that part, because you’ve gotten to do something you love for a lifetime or is success going to be Broadway?
If your business turns a profit this quarter and you stayed true to your mission and values, is that a success or are you just waiting for a failure before you tally up the score?
By all means reach for the stars, aim as high as you can dream. Spend the time defining what success will mean otherwise you are committing to measuring your life by only counting your failures.
Acknowledge and allow yourself to feel your success and move on to the next goal – stop moving the target before you’ve hit it.